Do you ever get way too in your head? I certainly do. Maybe you've noticed by a few of my recent posts that I've been in a bit of a funk for the past couple months. Or maybe not... Anyway, my point is that I am slowly but surely coming out of it. This conversation with The Mister over a shared burger and bloody mary last week has really helped...
C: Don't you ever worry that maybe we're not doing things right?
J: Doing what right?
C: I don't know... everything. Are we being smart enough with our money? Are we making the right career choices? Is our timing to start a family right? Are we going to be the parents we want to be? Are there things we should be doing now that we won't have a chance to do later? Don't you just wish someone could hand you the answers to all these questions to ensure that we won't majorly mess it all up? There's just so many places we can go wrong...
J: Cel... If for some God-awful reason I was to drop dead tomorrow, I can guarantee that the last thing on your mind is going to be where we did or didn't go wrong. You need to stop being such a weirdo, ok?
And that is exactly why I married him.
*Via Halcyon Days via Ink+Wit
fyi: we are married to the same man. (except well, that i am not married yet. but still.)
ReplyDeleteI guess that why I love Bean. If I mess up he still loves me and wants to help.
ReplyDeleteIs it just me, or do guys have a genetic predisposition to being calm? A secret anti-freak out organ or something? My guy is constantly bringing me back to earth the same way your Mister did here.
ReplyDeleteGlad you are feeling happier!
I love the little conversations you post between you and J. You two seem like the perfect match :) xo
ReplyDeletehaha, love it. my hubby has the same calming effect, always bringing me back to my senses. we are lucky to have them!
ReplyDeleteI love the "are you happy" picture. It made me laugh pretty hard. I needed that.
ReplyDeleteThat's a pretty smart way to look at things. Your mister sounds like a keeper.
ReplyDeleteWell that sure is cute. I'm so happy you have such a wonderful mister to keep you where your head needs to be!
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely adorable! I have a tendency to over-think things, too. It's nice to have a more laid-back significant other to put things into perspective sometimes.
ReplyDeleteI love Joe. And you of course.
ReplyDeleteHe's right, but fuck, it's not always that easy.
Have you seen Away We Go? The conversation they have about whether they're fuck-ups or not has been had in our house. More than once.
I think everyone ponders if they have screwed things up or not. It's funny - my guy and I play the opposite parts in this conversation - and really... I say:
ReplyDeleteyou can't put the toothpaste back in the tube... you just have to work with what you've got.
In general, I think we're all pretty lucky bastards. :) I'm glad the funk is lifting.
I am really glad you married him ;)
ReplyDeleteI tend to get to consumed with my own thoughts lots of the time & also need someone to say Hey, come back to reality!
ReplyDeleteyes! i get those same nagging wonderings of "am i good enough person? am i doing things the way that i should?" there are a million (ok or just a few) different directions i could take my life in the next year and i'm having a hard time figuring that out, so that's part of it too. but i think you and joe have a good thing going.
ReplyDeleteI was going to comment the exact same comment as Peonies up there. I started worrying about, oh, well, everything several months ago. Then I watched Away We Go with Justin and realized that most people are the exact same as us, no matter how prepared and on top of things my parents tell me they were. I know it's just a movie, but it made a huge difference - I began to breathe just a bit easier...
ReplyDeleteBut having a Sir that helps calm you down is the best, isn't it? Justin's the first guy to ever do so. If I had panic attacks in the past, my ex/s would just disappear. Justin bends over backwards to make sure I realize that he's there for me and that everything will be ok. L'amour, c'est grand.
He's a keeper x
ReplyDeleteAway We Go is the best!
ReplyDeleteLe sigh. I totally get this and thanks for being honest. I've been in a rut, too and am so grateful that my husband has the absolute courage to remind me not to be such a control freak! Here's to living life a little more hands free and letting go....
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