I've always been so intrigued by Elizabeth Taylor's and Richard Burton's relationship. If you look at photographs of them they never seem to be very happy. If anything, they usually look quite miserable. Yet, they managed to marry twice. Isn't that peculiar?
Joe has a friend whose parents, after 25 years of marriage, and then 12 of being divorced, remarried again this year. Quite honestly, I found the news to be touching and hopeful, but at the same time, completely difficult to relate to. Not only does divorce terrify the living shit out of me, but I've really never been one to revisit the past. I can't tell if this makes me sensical, or a total nonromantic. I don't know, I guess remarrying the same person probably isn't the kind of life decision that people really plan on.
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Crazy... I don't think I could do it. I'm more of a never looks back sort of person and I think my husband too. But I definitely think it's something no one ever plans on (I mean no one ever plans on divorce either) So who knows? In reality, I'm just hoping to avoid the divorce ordeal all together.
ReplyDeleteMy husband's best friend's parents remarried after divorcing each other. I believe it was a personal illness (the big c) that brought them back together again. I find it romantic, but I've never asked the friend what he thought about his parents' remarriage. Is that every child-of-divorce's dream? For their parents to reunite? (It's certainly not mine, but my parents divorced when I was in my early 20s). It's an interesting topic, for sure. Thanks for makin' me think this morning! xo.
ReplyDeletemy grandparents are in that boat: she went crazy (literally) and divorced him, he married again, she got well and came back, and he divorced his second wife (who was absolutely awful, as my mother recalls, but he thought it was his responsibility to stick with her no matter what) to marry grandma again. they were actually together-but-not-married-again-yet when my parents got married.
ReplyDeletemy mom has these odd stories of her mother showing up unannounced at her father and stepmother's house, demanding mysterious things (like old rugs), and then dematerializing again for a year or two. my mom doesn't talk about her teenage years very much, but i get the feeling they were pretty out there.
then there's my dad and stepmom: they dated in high school and broke up at college when she wanted to get married and he didn't. she had two marriages and my dad married my mom and had us; twenty years went by, then everyone got divorced and dad called her to ask if she'd be going to their college reunion. now they've been married for eight years; their first dance at their wedding was "my boyfriend's back."
Wow! Oddly enough, my parents also divorced and remarried. My mom married a complete fuckwad, and my dad had one serious girlfriend but wouldn't commit because he still held a flame for my mom. Six years and a second divorce for my mom, my parents remarried. For what its worth, after 30 plus years they still have the same problems and fight over the same shit. Who knows, maybe some day those two crazy kids will work it out.
ReplyDeleteHow do you think up these subjects?! I've already told both my parents that if they ever got remarried again I'd never speak to either one of them ever again. After what they put us through in our teens and for my youngest sister her tweens I'd be incredibly pissed off. Seriously I've got serious book material on that divorce and I never want to go through another one again.
ReplyDeleteMy grandfather did it, but he had a total of 5 wives, so he may not be a good example. We can discuss details next time we are at the park, unless I'm busy not catching Cheech before she faceplants out of the tunnel. (Can you tell I'm still feeling guilty about that?)
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